Allowing Has Nothing To Do With Permission And Everything To Do With Respect
As children, we grow up waiting for permission from others in authority to do things like leave the table, spend the night as a friend’s home, or go on a filed trip. This is a system that has a power dynamic, born from a place of insuring safety and instilling respect.
As adults, we can allow others to be who they are without giving them permission. Permission, among adults, implies a sense of superiority. Allowing implies a sense of getting out of the way of someone else’s progress or lesson.
So much trouble comes from the insidious compulsion to correct or control our beloved, our family members, and our coworkers. We are a culture that breeds control freaks. Control is based in fear. The fear can be: of the unknown, of getting messy, of looking bad or being alone.
When we ALLOW, we offer ourselves to the highest good of all involved. We no longer presume that we know what is right or wrong for others. We allow for goodness and light to come toward us and others.
The act of receiving is tied to this. It demands that we relinquish our death-grip on controlling outcomes. When we can breathe and relax, we often what happens is far beyond our tiny human imagination.
“One of the best actions we can take, with courage, is to relax.”
Your Assignment: As you go through your day today, look to see where you may be correcting others. Can you let someone mispronounce a word? Are you able to allow someone to do their work in a way that is different from how you would do it? Can you give someone the dignity of being “wrong” without pointing it out?
Sarah Anand Anma has had years of experience researching, recording, and ultimately IMPLEMENTING the best techniques to optimize her relationships. From romantic to family, platonic to business, she has transformed her interactions with others to heart-centered and mutually beneficial connections.
Born from a desire to have the power to choose to act compassionately rather than react instinctively, she continues to gather all of the best teachings and integrate them into her own life and her practice. Sarah has executed these practices in her marriage, her family life, with friends and colleagues.
Sarah is highly intuitive and works with each individual as his or her specific needs determine. She offers very simple tools for shifting perspective that have profound results.
Sarah is a spiritual filmmaker, a Kundalini and Prenatal yoga teacher, and is currently writing a book with her husband.
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